Things Every Submissive Man Should Know

Confession of an escort based in London

There are some important things a submissive man should know in order to serve well his lover. These are the following:

We are people too, and all the proper manners still apply.

Don’t fawn all over us; you will sound like a fool. Don’t call us “Mistress“, “Goddess” or “Lady” unless we tell you to. Don’t try to act like our sub without our agreement- anymore than you’d act like a woman’s boyfriend without her say so.

Your fetishes, needs and desires matter. They are not, however, my problem until I choose to make them my problem by getting into a relationship with you or choosing to address them when we play, and probably anything we do will be a equally complimentary fusion of both our desires- don’t stand for a relationship where your needs aren’t being met- it doesn’t make you a Real Submissive, it makes you a martyr.

Getting whipped, spanked, dressed in lingerie, or pretty much all your fetishes are intimate acts, even if they don’t include your penis. Manage yourself accordingly.

For the love of all that is divine, stop offering me acts of service unless they are your fetish, or I precisely say I want them, and even more so, stop trying to trade acts of service for acts of kink. A house cleaner makes way less per hour than a pro-dom.

Your submissive desires do not describe you. They are part of which you are, but not the entireness of who you are, and a dom’s long term interest in you will probably have a lot more to do with the whole person than you being a sub. Also the type of submissive you are conversant by the rest of your personality.

Women who demand compliment to talk to you or to prove your importance are scammers or naive. Experts who stay in the business will be trading a real service for money, and will be as clear and up front about what they do to the level that the local laws governing solicitation let them. Women who ask for money to dom you are professionals, nevertheless of skill or sanity.

We probably like looking good and being bizarre as much as the next person, but we can’t withstand a conversation based on how awesome we are. It’s either trying to force adoration dynamic on us, we will notice it as you discussing your turn on, or typical human diffidence will cause us to blush and deny. Use compliments like pepper with new people- sparingly applied where suited.

On the flip side, working on being hotter can’t really hurt your odds, particularly if you want a ‘hot’ dominant lady. Make sure your hair is groomed and flattering, your clothes fit and you then take advantage of the best tools available to your regardless of your subgroup memberships. Humans are superficial.

Do not underestimate the ability of apparently vanilla women to surprise you- not all doms hide out in BDSM environments. But, likewise don’t mash a square peg into a round hole. Your ability to persuade a woman is related to your skill to make it seem sexy and inviting, and not like a chore she’s doing for you.

Your wife might not understand you, but we know even if you are awesome, at best you’re going to break our heart when you try to shield us from some other thing you think we can’t handle, just like her.

Safe words are so you can say “no!” and have her ignore it. Ignoring a safe word, on the other hand, is bad news. Discuss in advance what it means to you and do not assume. Hell, never, ever assume.

If you expect every female dominant to come fully equip with gear, whips and a private dungeon, you will be sad. If you expect them to look better than the normal kind of attractiveness you will also be sad.

Dating overtures that start with a progressive comparison of us compared with all other doms, such as that we are prettier, saner, smarter, do not go as well as you think they will. Keep in mind that it is all too easy to project your principles onto strangers and it’s going to be very difficult if you praise her for something that is not the case.

We can’t look down on you if we want you to be our sub. We can pretend. We can say all sorts of unpleasant things. But only an emotional masochist will get into a relationship with someone who really makes their skin crawl or really is unsatisfying company.

Your penis size is less significant than you seem to think. Don’t get me wrong, some of us care- and a lot of us will want to see, but later and well photographed.

Don’t tell us how our sex or ethnicity makes us naturally dominant. Also, vanilla tip, praising our looks based on ethnicity is going to get frowns. Especially if you get it mistaken.

Don’t tell us certain sex acts aren’t ‘dominant’ or concern about how subs aren’t supposed to want certain things. You don’t have to be into diffusion, but that’s not because you are a sub, but because that’s your preference. Also, accept that satisfying your partner as a sub may mean doing what she wants, not what you wish she wanted. If she wants her tits hit during sex, she wants her tits hit. Likewise if you still like blowjobs, you still like blowjobs.

You are allowed to have bounds. Do not forget that you can deny something you don’t want.

Dominant women can be doubtful, sad, naive, make mistakes, need snuggles, love you, have terrible taste in media, get extremely infected ingrown toenails, have body image issues, question their sexuality and self-esteem and at the end of the day are just as lost, clueless and digging around as you.

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How Much doSuper hot, super sexy and very kinky Fetish Escort Female Women at BDSM Bondage sex clubs cost?

For the most part, at BDSM sex clubs, fetish escort women are going to be free of charge, and are instead just there for the super kinky sex with attractive men, something that not everyone can say with regards to escorts. Most BDSM clubs in all areas around the world, including in the United States and the United Kingdom, are going to be typically using membership fees and annual payment plans in order to stay afloat, and are never going to be having people pay for their sexual services directly. For this reason, fetish women within these BDSM clubs are not charging for their services, and are open to use at your own discretion. In order to find fetish escort women at legal bondage clubs within your area, be sure to go into BDSM club meet ups and be kind and respectful to the people in the area, as through you doing this you will meet friends and various other club members that can effectively guide you down the path towards finding your kinky sex escort and fulfilling all of your fetish desires.

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How much are Fetish escorts willing to give you with regards to their body in a sexual setting, and How long does Sex with a Fetish Escort Last?

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Why are Fetish Escorts so Kinky, and how to find and seduce a fetish escort woman at a BDSM sex club?

Fetish escorts, as implied by their name, are going to generally be very kinky sexually, and usually will do plenty of things that your average escort would not. The best way to find them in a way that is cheap, free, legal and consensual, is to enter into the sex club industry, which you can usually find online or in forums around your local community, in most cases, they are going to be free and are willing to negotiate dirty sexual acts if you are going to reciprocate sexually as well. Many fetish escorts that like giving it to their clients are also sometimes going to like getting it themselves just as much, and can sometimes be into everything from a foot fetish or fetish for violent, long lasting sex, to a fetish for cuddling, spooning for long hours, for tall or short men, for men with muscles, and everything else of this type of variety.

BDSM Sex clubs and how to approach them for the first Time, The BDSM Munchin Meet Up and How to use it to find a Kinky Fetish Escort Woman

A BDSM Munchin meet up that usually has a sign up process online that is fairly cost effective and straight forward, is something that can be the best way for you to get your foot in the door in finding a fetish escort for you to work with in your sexual adventures. Finding the right fetish escort woman is something that can be difficult if you don’t know where to look, so the first time that you attend a meeting, be sure to ask around and see what the other guests know about who is into what type of stuff sexually, who has too strict of limits, and of who will be your best bet as a sex partner.

Final Thoughts on Finding the Best Fetish Escort Woman and How You Can Use Them for your own Sexual Pleasure

All in all, finding an escort that can also serve as a fetish partner does not have to be difficult, keep trying and you’ll find your way!